Anger is a feeling that tells you that you are hurt and don’t want to be hurt. It is about what you don’t want. When you learn not to react to anger and look at it as a mirror, it identifies what you do want.The “gift of anger” is to be able to go after what you want instead of fighting with what you don’t want.

An anger problem is any anger-related behavior (verbal, physical, or emotional) that is hurtful to you or someone else.